Tuesday, February 23, 2010

Five successful years

Five years ago this morning, I was laid out in the operating room, getting my gut cut open for an RNY gastric bypass procedure. It was the best thing I've ever done for myself. If I had to do it over again, I'd do it in a heartbeat.

Before I started, I tipped the scales at 428 lbs. When I weighed myself yesterday, I was 244 lbs. In between, I dropped as low as 216 lbs. before bouncing back a bit. Gastric bypass probably saved my life, as I can now do things I had only imagined previously, like a 73-mile backpacking trip last summer.

I'm grateful to the surgeons, nurses, nutritionists and other medical professionals who did my procedure. I'm most grateful to my family and the online buddies I made at ObesityHelp.com. What a great support system!

Sunday, February 21, 2010

Petroglyphs in the canyon

Saturday, January 23, 2010

Mauricio escorts Regis and me on a hike to the canyon of the river to see 2,000-year-old petroglyphs. We ride in his pickup truck down a bumpy dirt road to a turnaround point, then continue on foot until we reach the river.

From there, we hop boulders about a mile downstream, then up a small side canyon about 50 feet to see the petroglyphs. Mauricio says the petroglyphs are only found here. He doesn’t know who carved them, but they are extremely detailed carvings. He points out a couple that represent monkeys, including a baby monkey.

The hike back up out of the canyon is grueling for me. The steep trail and the heat of the midday sun conspire against me. Regis does well, but is also a bit winded, whereas Mauricio—at 62 or 63—barely breaks a sweat.

Back in Chiltiupan, Mauricio takes us to his home, where he and his wife bring out a fan to cool us, then offer fresh lemonade and delicious slices of pineapple, papaya and mango.

Sister Rose meets us at Mauricio's house, then drives Regis and me back to La Libertad to meet up with the rest of our group. Shortly, we all depart for an afternoon in San Salvador.

Left behind in Chiltiupan

January 22, 2010

Today we met with a group of women embroiderers. Some time ago, Sr. Rose found a trunk of yarn and gave it to a group of local women who either knew how to crochet and embroider or wanted to learn. The craftwork was beautiful and the women's stories touching.

Later we visited a woman making ground corn flour tortillas. Each member of our group had an opportunity to make a tortilla. We asked how much one tortilla cost and the woman who taught us said five cents each. I bought a bag of 6-8 tortillas and gave her $2.00. She didn’t want that much, but I urged her to keep it.

After that, we returned to Sr. Rose’s house for lunch. Sister had fixed sloppy joes with fresh fruit and vegetables, plus a few hot pupusas filled with cheese. The tortillas I bought, as well as the pupusas, were quite delicious.

They say no good deed goes unpunished. After lunch, the group departed to see the handiwork of yesterday’s service project, but they left without me.

I had to visit the restroom and knew it would take me a few minutes, so I held back until everyone else had an opportunity to use it. Even though I did my business very quickly, when I went out I found the house vacant except for Sister’s housekeeper. They had already gone.

There’s no one left except me and no way for me to catch up with them. I wouldn’t even know where to tell someone to go, as Sister just described it as a Mass in a canton after visiting Trini and Andres.

I walk up to the square by the church of Santo Domingo, sit down on a bench and watch what’s going on in the town. An old orange Datsun pickup truck loaded with cabbages and melons parks in front of the church. A young boy of 10 or 11 gets out, followed by his father. They pick out a pair of huge cabbages for sale to prospective customers. The lady who makes tortillas in the little stand across the square turns down the boy’s offer, but the father appears to have made a sale to another customer.

Vendors in trucks and vans with loudspeakers mounted on the roof go up and down the streets playing recordings to hawk their wares.

“Hot personal pizza with ham and mozzarella cheese, Italian style, one dollar!” crows the recorded voice repeatedly from one truck.

I need to find out why Santo Domingo de Guzman is shown with a dog. Both the large statue on top of the church and another statue I have seen both show him with a dog.

Local men stop outside the church to greet me, including the man I saw yesterday with a Webelos Scout cap on. He tells me his name is Luis and I think he’s waiting to go to the clinic. I think he says he needs glasses.

Luis wears worn black leather dress shoes, one with a piece of cheap aqua nylon twine as a shoelace. A thin cord holds up his trousers in lieu of a belt.

I walk the town, see a young kitten and make an instant friend. Two dogs see me as a threat on their turf and bark menacingly. I retreat to a little shop, where I buy a cold beer for a dollar.

From there, it’s back to Sister’s house, where the housekeeper, Luce, recognizes me. I share my story of being left behind through a mixture of English, Spanish and gestures. She says she understands.

I take a chair to Sister’s front porch and pass the time people-watching.

The lady who taught us to make tortillas comes down the hill with a big basket of empanadas con leche. I buy one for twenty cents and it is very tasty. The custard is warm and sweet, the dough warm and crumbly, like a shortbread cookie.

It is so peaceful here. Across the street, people in the small shop chat while waiting on customers. Latin music emanates from a loudspeaker. Dogs and cats wander past.

Roosters crow and turkeys gobble. In the distance—a block or two away—I hear pigeons cooing too.

Missionaries of another faith pass by, along with other foot traffic and an assortment of vehicles.

In some respects, the houses vary so much. In town, the main streets have pleasant adobe and stucco construction, handsomely crafted metal grates or grillwork over the doors and windows, and colorfully painted walls.

Just a block or two away, the quality of housing drops quickly. The tin-roofed shacks are mere hovels with dirt floors, yet they are home to very lovely people.

As I sit writing, two boys—Juan and Jose—stop to see me. Perhaps they intend to visit Sister Rose. Then again, it just might be that I am a curiosity. They tell me their names and ages—eight and nine—but quickly tire of this foreigner who cannot speak Spanish, so they move on.

Our group must be in Santa Lucia now. Mass will be over, but I’m not sure what they are supposed to be doing next. On one hand, it bugs me not to be along just because I was last in line for the restroom. On the other hand, though, I am enjoying the “silencio” of sitting and writing.

Chris and Terri will be working hard finishing the findings and recommendations for our client in Chicago, so I feel a small bit of guilt being here, so far removed from work. Still, I feel I’m learning a lot here and, in some small way, can take back what I learned and share it with people at home.

Dawn breaks in La Libertad

Friday, January 22,2010 -- La Libertad

The night security guard, wearing a baseball cap, a red Mickey Mouse sweatshirt and dark slacks to ward off the morning chill, greets me with a wave and a warm bueno’ dia’ as he makes his rounds carrying a shiny sawed-off shotgun.

Just in the first five minutes on the hotel terrace this morning, the guard’s appearance illustrates to me the contradictions I see in El Salvador. His warm greeting is juxtaposed against his firearm.

The people we have seen and met are rich in family and faith, yet poor in material goods. The land, the mountains and the Pacific coast are all beautiful, yet the guard’s shotgun represents ongoing violence here from street gangs and drugs.

The sun is coming up quickly and the workaday noises of an awakening city increase. An attendant skims the hotel pool while another man prepares coffee behind the bar. On the mountain in the distance behind the pool, ramshackle homes of corrugated steel dot the hillside.

One small boat plies grey Pacific waters heading west while 18-wheelers and buses toot airhorns as they head east on the highway out front. A cool easterly breeze puts a little nip in the air.

Thursday, February 18, 2010

The Bread Boy


Rafael lives in Sister Rose's neighborhood in Chiltiupan, around the corner and down the hill one street off the main drag.

The difference one block makes in Chiltiupan is stark, though. Most homes on the main road are brick or stucco, with bright pastel paints, windows and elaborate ironwork on the doors and windows. Rafael's home, although it is two stories high, is fashioned from sheets of corrugated steel, with lots of leaks when it rains or for creepy-crawlies to come in.

As Sister Rose relays the story, Rafael started to come around to her house for visits. He was a nice, polite boy, so Sister Rose would offer Rafael a piece of candy, for which he was always grateful.

One day, Sister Rose noticed Rafael had spied a loaf of bread in her kitchen and was looking at it. She asked if he'd like a slice, to which he replied that he would, as he hadn't had anything to eat that day. Since that time, Sister Rose has a special place in her heart for Rafael, frequently giving him bread or anything else she is able to provide.

I met him when Sister Rose took our group to his home and introduced us to Rafael and his siblings. Warm, friendly, smiling, slightly bashful with strangers.

A couple of days later, during a presentation at the parish school, I had the opportunity to meet Rafael again. He reminded me so much of the kids at home in Strongsville, so I gave him a T-shirt from Boy Scout Troop 701, a moment caught by photographer Doug Bardwell in the attached photo.

Sunday, February 07, 2010

Reflection on El Salvador

Chiltiupan just will not go away. It won't leave my head. It's been two weeks since my return to a cold Cleveland winter, with work, family and parish activities all needing time and attention.


Every day, though, my head and my heart are drawn back to Chiltiupan. I think often of Trini and Andres, the homeowners who were so grateful that our group from St. John Neumann Church in Strongsville poured a concrete floor in their home, paving over the hard-packed dirt.

Or I think of Mauricio, the army veteran and board member of the parish clinic, who led fellow missioner Regis Falinski and me on a hike a thousand meters down into the river canyon to see 2,000-year-old petroglyphs carved into an automobile-sized boulder. Then, after the hike was done, Mauricio took Regis and me into his home, introduced us to his family and served freshly-made lemonade and delicious pineapple, papaya and mango.

Then there's Rafael--Sister Rose's "bread boy"--and his brother Fran, both of whom I gave T-shirts from Boy Scout Troop 701. I think of how much I'd like to bring Scouting to the youths of Chiltiupan--or help the kids in Strongsville understand how blessed they are compared with their Salvadoreno brothers.


I think of Luis, an older man I met twice during my stay. What caught my attention the first time was the sun-beaten, frayed old baseball cap, which I recognized as being from the Boy Scouts in the U. S. It was only when I met him the second time that I noticed his belt was a thin cord and that he had mismatched shoelaces--the left one was a piece of aqua-colored nylon twine.

Or I think of Sister Bernardita, the Carmelite nun who was our guide at the home of martyred Archbishop Oscar Romero, telling us in a reverent tone just above a whisper, "With Monsenor Romero, God passed through this country."

I had less than five days in El Salvador, most of it in Chiltiupan, yet I learned so much from the people. They gave me renewed compassion for others, they opened their hearts and shared good fellowship, and they showed me how to live one's faith every day.

My hope is that Chiltiupan stays with me every day--that it never leaves--and that I will find ways to continue supporting its people.